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Jul 30
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6 P’s for an Effective Outing

By: Jane Lynn – Owner Navigate Autism

About the Author:
Jane Lynn Britton, was a professional HR leadership trainer and coach for 20 years. She quit her career to homeschool her son, William, with autism. That was 8 years ago. Today, both Jane Lynn and William are stronger, more confident, relaxed and happy. William is back in school, and Jane Lynn partners with parents who want to create a more relaxed and harmonious life for themselves and to help their children thrive. She does this through her business venture, "Navigate Autism with Jane Lynn". Oh, and by the way, William is one of our Superheroes!

Avoid the stress of summer outings by using The 6 P’s for an Effective Outing

“We get to go to the store! Show me where you want to go!” When I say these magic words to my son, William, he gets so excited that he immediately gets ready and goes to the car with a wide smile and sparkling eyes. My heart is so full of love for him as well as enthusiasm for our outing, that I can’t even remember the day when I used to dread taking him out of the house. Yet, there was a time that my fear of his unexpected behavior and of everyone’s judgment kept me home. Not so long ago when we needed to go out, I was apprehensive and stressed. However, this changed once I decided to let go of the judgments from myself and others, and learned how to create effective and fun outings.

There are 6 key steps, which are very simple, and if you follow them one-by-one, you will see how easy it is to go on outings that leave both you and your child wanting more! Even in the summer time, when stores are crowded and people are more animated and loud.

Step 1: Plan

Don’t just show up. Plan before you go. If you can, check out the location before you go with your child. If it’s a small store or you are going to visit a friend or family member’s house, talk to them and explain what kind of outing you are doing and what you hope to accomplish, as well as what they might expect when you come. You can also ask for their help in some way in order to ensure a smooth outing, and to prepare them for your visit. Also, answer these questions for yourself:

  1. What do I want to do?
  2. Where do I want to go?
  3. Who is going?
  4. What time of day is calm at this place?
  5. How long will it take to get there?
  6. How do I get there?
  7. Where is the best place to park near my destination?
  8. Where is the bathroom?
  9. What do I need to take? (e.g. extra clothes, snack, etc.)
  10. What are the obstacles, if any about this outing?

Step 2: Prepare

This step is to think of all the things that you are going to need to take with you and to then pack them all before you leave. Some of these items may include:

  1. Extra clothes
  2. Bags
  3.  Hand wipes
  4. Snacks
  5. Chew toy
  6. Hand/fidget toy
  7. Child’s wallet (if going to store)
  8. Communication device (if use one)
  9. Your wallet
  10. Your phone
  11. Your glasses

One thing I would suggest is to put everything in a backpack that you will wear during the outing. This will keep your hands free to open doors, guide your child, help pick out items, help pay, etc. Also, wear pockets to put your keys into and small things that you may need in an instant.

When you arrive at the destination, ask your child to get the backpack out of the car. This will slow him down and keep him from hopping out of the car and running across the parking lot. It also gives him something weighted to carry, which helps to ground his body and focus his attention.

Once your child is focused and next to you, you can take the backpack and put it on your back. Now, after following these steps, you are ready to go….and your hands are FREE and ready to help your child in any way.

Step 3: Patient

Patience is key! The one thing we can count on is that there will be surprises. And since our children are so connected with us, as well as sensitive, they respond to our emotions. Therefore, it is not surprising that when we stay relaxed and patient, our children are more relaxed. And when this happens, they stay connected with us and listen better. They also don’t want or need to run or get away, which interestingly, helps us to be even calmer and it gives us more control of the situation. 

Sometimes being patient is saying that it’s OK to leave the store or outing earlier than expected, even right after it starts. If your goal is to have a successful outing, but your child is not able to do that today for some reason, it’s OK. With patience, you help your child take care of himself/herself. This also builds trust, and the next time you suggest an outing, your child will most likely want to go, because s/he knows you will be flexible and respond to his/her needs with love and support. And, then with persistence, you can start to have longer, more enjoyable outings.

Step 4: Praise

Who doesn’t like to be praised or celebrated for what they have done? We want to motivate our children to continue to be calm, focused and to listen during the outing, and praise will help us achieve this. We can say things such as: "Thank you for helping me with that backpack." Or, "Nice job walking calmly with me into the mall." Every little thing that your child is doing is praise-worthy.

It’s easy to praise when they do something well. But, what is really POWERFUL and creates the most successful outing is when we praise our children even when they do something we don’t want. Because of this, they will calm down, trust us, and listen better. For instance, if your child takes the cart and runs through the store screaming, praise him/her for showing you that s/he wanted to go to a different part of the store...or that something was bothering him/her and s/he needed to go to a more comfortable place. Then lovingly tell him/her that a better way to do it is to walk calmly so s/he doesn’t run into or scare anyone. This will surprise your child, who is waiting to be reprimanded, because your child is smart and knows the behaviors that you like or call “good behavior”. And when s/he is feeling supported and loved, s/he will listen better and become calmer in the store.

Step 5: Put it to use

Giving your outings relevance and purpose not only teaches your children more about life, but also motivates them to want to go out more. If you're out shopping and you buy something, use it right when you get home. If you went to an event and you took pictures, print out the pictures, and show it to your child as soon as you can. All of this brings relevance and purpose to what you've done, and it inspires him/her to want to go on more outings.

Step 6: Practice

The final step is Practice! Continue to go on outings, because the more you practice, the more routine, comfort and joy you will build. I've had times where it's been stressful when we went out in the community, and as a result I didn't want to go again. But, I didn’t give in. I continued to practice and use these six P’s, and it eventually became easier. And today, my son and I both look for as many opportunities as we can to go out together. 

Jun 30
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The Upshot of Supported Downtime

By: Judy Saunders (Intake Coordinator/Supervisor)

For many of our Superheroes, the handling of “downtime” or unstructured time can be one of the most challenging times of the day. School or perhaps a day program has provided routine and structure in a supportive environment. In some cases, individuals may participate in competitive employment or volunteer opportunities within the community where expectations are clear, tasks are clearly defined; days and hours are scheduled. In addition, social opportunities and peer groups are an integral part of their day.

When they return home, the lack of structure can be overwhelming often leading to isolation, anxiety and regressive behaviors. Very often, parents at the end of their day begin the task of trying to identify and implement routines.

Sidekicks provide that valuable opportunity to add structure and routine to aspects of a Superhero’s day. Weekly schedules that include community integration and daily living skills lend goal oriented experiences culminating in productive and positive outcomes. There is so much potential for learning, growth and relationship building during supported “downtime.”

Being out in the community also helps reinforce and transfer skills such as money handling, social skills and maintaining appropriate hygiene. In addition, developing greater tolerance to those sensory and environmental stimuli that can often cause maladaptive behaviors can lead to increased self-esteem and greater self-awareness.

Just as important, the ability to make choices and invest in decision making and planning gives control and autonomy in the process. This gives way to self-satisfaction and enjoyment.

Learning how to manage “downtime” is hard. It requires time management, judgement, executive functioning and social skills to name few.

When families work together with their Sidekicks many of these skills will be addressed and Superheroes can rise to the highest level of expectation. That’s the upshot of supported downtime!

 

May 31
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A Thank You Note to Our Super Moms and Super Dads

By Sarah E. Siering, M.A., BCBA

It’s hard to believe, but here we are, halfway between Mother’s Day and Father’s Day already!  While I can’t make every Sidekicks parent a finger painting for the fridge or a macaroni picture frame (even though I’d like to!) I still want to take a moment to let you all know how much we here at Sidekicks appreciate you.

Feb 27
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Do you believe there is a medical cure for Autism?

By:  Robert F. Valluzzo

I continue to be curious how many families out there truly believe there is a simple cure in a bottle or in pill form to give your child to “Cure” them of this disease?  I for one tried this type of medicine on my son. It cost me a lot of money and we never saw a positive result.  Back in the 1990’s it was an injection of Pig intestinal lining fluids.  It was available in Canada at the time and it was to have been a wonder drug.  After about six injections in my son’s stomach area, we stopped the treatment.  Why?  Because it showed no improvement and I did not want to do something that might have hurt my child.

Jan 31
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A Sidekick's Perspective: My 2016 Thoughts on Autism Research

By: Adnan Ahmeduddin

Einstein once said, “If we knew what it was we were doing, it would not be called research.” Frankly, we still do not know a lot about autism; we do not know what causes it, what it is doing in the brain, and how to treat it effectively. Scientific research in 2016, and over the past few decades, offers glimpses into understanding more and more about the neurodevelopmental disorder which leads us to better solutions that alleviate the common hurdles those affected by autism must overcome.

Dec 30
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Transitioning to Adulthood

By Sidekicks Chief Operating Officer Jamie Douglas

When Niko asked that I write something to help families who have children transitioning into adult services, my initial thought was to offer first some simple advice. Hold on, it’s going to be a bumpy ride. For many families, a great deal of time and energy was necessary to secure appropriate services for their children when they were entering into the educational system at the age of five or even younger. Years of seeking medical assistance, working, and sometimes fighting, with school districts, securing extended day or extended school year services was a hard and tiresome task for families who only wanted the best for the special needs child.  For many families the hard work paid off and appropriate educational services were secured and most importantly funded by the department of education during these most important educational years.

As most parents will tell you, “In a blink of an eye” children are suddenly young adults standing on the threshold of adulthood. For many years we are consumed with thoughts of our children being accepted into a good college, hoping we as parents have done our best to teach them right from wrong, to be kind, responsible and successful in their chosen endeavors.

This however is a very different reality for our families who need to plan for their special needs child as they approach adulthood. The realization that they are starting all over again is daunting. Gone are all of the entitlements that come with the educational years. Extended day program – gone. Extended school year – gone. Speech therapy, occupational therapy, physical therapy, consultants and most importantly, transportation – all gone. Our families find themselves heading a top speed towards a cliff with seemingly little guidance on how to keep from going over the edge.

As a human service professional I spent over 35 years working with families and nothing was more rewarding as the 20 years I spent working with adults with disabilities. One of the biggest challenges was guiding families through the maze of state agencies and processes to secure the best future for their child. Currently the State of New Jersey is transitioning into a fee for services system which only makes things even more confusing. Here are some ideas and tips that I hope assist you in navigating your child’s transition into adulthood.

1. It’s never too early to start the process. By the time your son or daughter is 14, start talking with your school and child study team about the transition to adult services. Put together a transition team and begin discussing the following:

  • a. The students strengths and preferences
  • b. Potential future life path (work, college, trade school)

2. By the age of 16, with the students input, the IEP should state the need for a transition plan including community experience and educational requirements necessary to achieve his or her goals.

3. Before the age of 17, families should:

  • a. Begin the guardianship process for their child if necessary.
  • b. Begin the vocational rehabilitation process (this should occur at least 2 years prior to graduation.

4. Prior to the age of 18:

  • a. Social Security benefits, Social Security Disability Insurance and Medicaid benefits should be established.
  • b. Contact your Regional Division of Developmental Disabilities office and apply for DDD services. This includes the New Jersey Comprehensive Assessment Tool

5. At the age of 18

  • a. The student has the right to register to vote
  • b. The transition team should begin discussing and visiting adult agencies to assess service and support options
  • c. Families should begin to explore and select a support coordination agency (parents must choose a support coordination agency that can best assist them in securing services for their child. If families do not choose an agency, one will be assigned by the state when your child turns 21)
  • d. Residential options should also be investigated if desired

Note – At 18 your child move from a system of entitlements to one on eligibility. Specialized educational services may continue until the age of 21 in many cases

6. At the age of 21:

  • a. Your child is no longer entitled to services and is moved into the Medicaid based Supports Program.
  • b. The individual and their family must access services through their established budget.


When reviewing the time line above it is easy to see why the earlier you start the better you are able to plan along with your child for their future and make it a successful one. It a lot of work but with the new fee for services system families have more options including: career planning, employment, community supports, specialized equipment as well as other supportive services. My best advice is to become as informed as possible and know your options. Talk with other families who are currently or have recently experienced the transition options. Become very familiar with the State websites and use their help desks to answer your questions. The Division of Developmental Disabilities has been very good at conducting webinars for families and agencies which are all available on YouTube. Individuals with disabilities are one of the largest growing populations in the State of New Jersey. There is a lot of power that goes with it. Use it to your advantage to gain the services your family member needs as an adult. Here are some websites to get you started on your journey to adulthood and hopefully make it a little less bumpy.

Resources

Autism Speaks Transition Tool Kit

https://www.autismspeaks.org/family-services/tool-kits/transition-tool-kit

 

Application to DDD Services

http://www.state.nj.us/humanservices/ddd/services/apply/index.html

 

New Jersey Comprehensive Assessment Tool

http://www.nj.gov/humanservices/ddd/resources/njcat.html

 

Applying to Medicaid

http://www.state.nj.us/humanservices/dmahs/clients/medicaid/

 

Division of Vocational Rehabilitation Services (DVRS)

http://www.state.nj.us/education/specialed/transition/agency.shtml

 

Applying to Social Security

https://www.ssa.gov/forms/apply-for-benefits.html

 

Applying to Social Security Disability Insurance

https://www.disabilityapprovalguide.com

 

Choosing a Supports Coordination Agency

http://rwjms.rutgers.edu/boggscenter/products/documents/ChoosingaSupportCoordinationAgencyfinalApril2014.pdf

 

 

 

 

 

Nov 30
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A Sidekicks Story: My Journey From the Start

 

Written by the CEO of Sidekicks Niko Antonellos

Intro

November 4th, 2016 marked three years of Sidekicks providing support services.  I have written the following blog to share part of my journey; why I started Sidekicks and some things I took away from my experience thus far. 

I want to thank those who believed in a kid out of college who had a vision and an idea. I am grateful to be part of many people’s lives.  To all of our Superheroes, Parents, and Sidekicks, you all are like family to me.

Oct 31
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Missy Gaunt: A Real Super Woman

Written by Community Resource Manager Bob Valluzzo

Ever wonder how normal people become a Super Hero let alone a Super Woman?  Maybe, we have it in all of us, but for now let me tell you a story about Missy, Melz or Melissa Gaunt!  However you know her, once you do, you become part of her family.  What family am I talking about?  The Missy Family of supporting others in need. 

Sep 29
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Raising Twin Superheroes

By Luis & Lucrieta

We are the parents of twin superheroes that go by the names Quentin and Tru.  In the beginning, my husband and I struggled with accepting that both of our children have special needs and we knew we were in for some major stress and hard work.  There was a time when we were not sure if my son would speak or if my daughter would be able to control her impulses.  We researched and researched different support systems for children with special needs and when we found the sidekicks we knew that they would become an important part of our lives. 

I wanted to take a moment to thank the sidekicks that work with Quentin and Tru.  What they have provided to our children, and us as a family, has truly been a Godsend.  The sidekicks bring such structure to our lives, and most importantly our childrens’ lives.  They work with Quentin and Tru after school and our kids look forward to seeing them every single day.  The services that they provide have allowed Quentin and Tru to grow in so many ways.  My husband and I have watched them make significant progress in their speech, social skills, coping skills, and independence. 

Not only are Quentin and Tru learning from the sidekicks, but my husband and I are as well.  The support they give to us as parents has been invaluable and we are forever grateful for the work they have done with our children.  We have used the model that the sidekicks provide to learn strategies that help our children in moments of crisis or just everyday learning.  We are learning ways to cope with our childrens’ special needs, as well as ways to work with them and provide them the help they need to continue to grow and learn.  On top of that, my husband and I have been able to do things we haven’t been able to do in 5 years because of the comfort we have in knowing the sidekicks are with our children.  They are not only keeping them safe, but also teaching them how to grow socially, emotionally, and academically.

Again, I just want to send my most sincere appreciation to the sidekicks who have brought so much to our lives.  I would also like to give a special thank you to the BCBA that works so closely with our sidekicks.  Ashley, without your guidance and direction we wouldn’t be here. You will never know how much your support means to us.  Thank you for coming into our lives and giving us the greatest gift we could ask for.        

Aug 31
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Path to my Passion, Becoming a Special Education Teacher

By: Christine B.

I never thought that I would be good enough to become a special education teacher.

When I came into Rider University, I was dead-set on becoming a high school math teacher: not only was I practically guaranteed a job upon graduation, but I also loved doing math. Everything seemed to make sense. That was, until nothing made sense.

Sophomore year, I realized becoming a math teacher was not what the cards had in store for me – as a result I felt completely lost. Everything that I was holding dear was beginning to change, and I was scared. I decided that I wanted to go into elementary education, meaning that I would have to choose a new second major. I changed from secondary education and mathematics to elementary education and American students (a major that no one else seemed to know about). I cried hysterically to my mom for hours about the change as I tried to work through my lost sense of security and achievement.

In the middle of my tears, my mom brought up something that I had never considered: the special education minor. She said it would make me more marketable to schools, and would be my way to get my foot in the door.

I cried even harder after her suggestion. I told her over and over again that I was not the “right kind” of person to go into special education, that I would never be good enough to help those students. Still, my mom pushed me and eventually I complied and picked up the minor.

The next semester I started the program: I took my first special education course which included a field placement at a local school that catered towards individuals with disabilities. I was placed in a 7th/8th grade multiple disabilities class; I would be the only student teacher in the class, meaning that I would have no one to share my nervousness with. The first day I stepped into that classroom I was over whelmed - I was in an unfamiliar environment with practically no knowledge about the students that I would be working with. After a few quiet moments alone in the classroom, a change began to happen. The knot in my stomach slowly changed into butterflies, and my anxiety transformed into excitement. I met my class with a smile on my face and a new sense of determination. Throughout the semester my students and I worked together to accomplish things we never thought possible and formed lasting relationships. The transformation I experienced was not a slow one: after my first day my conversations revolved around what happened in that classroom and my thoughts were consumed by how I could best help my students.

I left that classroom a completely different person from when I entered. I left with a newfound sense of confidence and excitement: I learned there that teaching special education was the only thing that I would be happy doing. I suddenly had a new fervor for education and knew that this was supposed to be my path.

I immediately started looking for work with special education – through my school’s career website I was able to find Sidekicks. I applied in between my classes and in the beginning of October I began my journey. Every day my Superheroes remind me of the lessons that I learned in that field placement – that while I still may have so much more to learn, I am still good enough to become a special education teacher.

To those who might be scared of going into special education, let me offer a piece of advice that I offer to every underclassmen education major: the fear of becoming a special education teacher is not necessarily bad. It is simply a sign that you care about the well-being of those students – it means that you want to offer them the best. It is precisely that high level of care that is indicative that you would, wholeheartedly, be the best teacher for those students. Who knows – it might become the only thing that you can see yourself doing.

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